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Nearly Sane

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1 year ago
« on: October 04, 2015, 07:24:01 PM »
I was on a train after hearing that my father had got worse in hospital, to then hear that he had died. It was for the best and for the last couple of years, there was rarely enough of him left to not miss him even when you were in the same room. But he loved fiercely through the 62 years he was married, and the 61 years he was a father, and he taught me that was how to seize life. Thanks, dad.
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« Reply #1 on: October 04, 2015, 08:08:48 PM »
I was on a train after hearing that my father had got worse in hospital, to then hear that he had died. It was for the best and for the last couple of years, there was rarely enough of him left to not miss him even when you were in the same room. But he loved fiercely through the 62 years he was married, and the 61 years he was a father, and he taught me that was how to seize life. Thanks, dad.

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« Reply #2 on: October 04, 2015, 09:05:22 PM »
Thanks for sharing, NS. Clearly he taught you well.

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« Reply #3 on: October 04, 2015, 09:39:11 PM »
Thanks for sharing, NS. Clearly he taught you well.
I have always found it very hard to listen to Mike and the Mechanics song 'The Living Years' as my Dad died whilst I was working abroad, and coincidentally at a time when I was just beginning to recover from an acute bout of nephritis that had threatened my own life.  Even if I had travelled home I would never have made the funeral because I'd have been whisked off to hospital as soon as the plane landed.

Much as you say, NS, even though it was 33 years ago last month for me, I still miss him horrendously, and I certainly wouldn't be who or what I am now without him.  Those of us who have/had 'real' fathers have such a lot to be thankful for.
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Re: 1 year ago
« Reply #4 on: October 04, 2015, 09:39:54 PM »
You never forget them, NS, and nor should you. He's part of who you are.
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Re: 1 year ago
« Reply #5 on: October 05, 2015, 08:02:46 AM »
It doesn't seem like a year already NS, and in my experience thoughts and memories of loved ones are never very far away from us no matter how much time has passed.

Sometimes though, such as on anniversaries like this, they seem especially close.   

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« Reply #6 on: October 14, 2015, 03:09:20 PM »
I was on a train after hearing that my father had got worse in hospital, to then hear that he had died. It was for the best and for the last couple of years, there was rarely enough of him left to not miss him even when you were in the same room. But he loved fiercely through the 62 years he was married, and the 61 years he was a father, and he taught me that was how to seize life. Thanks, dad.

It is a wonderful way you have described your Father. The sentiment that he LOVED fiercely and taught you to seize life [live it to the full] is upllifting.
Sometimes people do not say enough about the things which really make us who we are. Thank you for sharing something so personal.

Thought of my dad. A patient man who taught by example. I personally, did not really appreciate fully the things I knew about him life. But he had a quiet inner strength.
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Re: 1 year ago
« Reply #7 on: October 04, 2017, 07:33:26 AM »
And now it is 3 years ago, and thanks to the wonders of social media, I have realised that it is 5 years ago that I saw a dear friend for the last time before he was killed. As ever carpe that feckin diem!
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Re: 1 year ago
« Reply #8 on: October 04, 2017, 02:21:22 PM »
Thinking of you NS.
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Re: 1 year ago
« Reply #9 on: October 04, 2017, 03:20:57 PM »
Times passes, but the memories and feelings don't.

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« Reply #10 on: October 04, 2017, 07:40:48 PM »
You're right there Gordon. I'm remembering my cousin who died when I was 16 - she was 18.  It was beginning of Sept. She had meningitis, was all over in a few days. When I think about it now it's like yesterday not 41 years.
Very sad for NS, it was his dad & three years is not that long ago.
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« Reply #11 on: October 19, 2017, 10:31:22 AM »
So true... no matter how many years we still remember the people we loved so well.

Sadness and silent tears which trickle down our faces when we think of those loved ones and friend no longer here.
The list gets longer as times move on but the memories whether happy or sad do not change.

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