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Robbie

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Mum has terminal cancer
« on: October 03, 2017, 12:30:32 PM »
Came as a great shock, though she is in her eighties and we all know something will happen eventually.  She's always been so well!
She doesn't feel terrible atm, better after lunch, and wants no fuss.  Bless her.
The plan is for minimal treatment which I agree with.
She seems less bothered than the rest of us!
My father 5.5 years older than her.
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« Reply #1 on: October 03, 2017, 12:32:50 PM »
I'm sorry to hear this.

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« Reply #2 on: October 03, 2017, 01:01:04 PM »
Sad news: since she isn't unduly bothered, as you say, then hopefully she'll stay comfortable and its sounds like she is a positive person (which may help your father deal with this).

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« Reply #3 on: October 03, 2017, 01:08:13 PM »
Sorry to hear about your mum's health Robinson - it is a sad blow even when you know it is not completely unexpected that the elderly will get a terminal illness eventually. Glad she is comfortable atm and sending you a virtual hug.
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« Reply #4 on: October 03, 2017, 01:30:21 PM »
Sad news Robinson, I wish you and your family strength

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« Reply #5 on: October 03, 2017, 01:45:18 PM »
Sorry about your mother, Robinson. :(

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« Reply #6 on: October 03, 2017, 01:59:00 PM »
Hope that your Mum and you and all the rest of your family manage to remain as positive as possible in this sad situation. Thinking of you.
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« Reply #7 on: October 03, 2017, 03:00:46 PM »



Sorry to hear about that Robbie!

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« Reply #8 on: October 03, 2017, 03:11:33 PM »
Came as a great shock, though she is in her eighties and we all know something will happen eventually.  She's always been so well!
She doesn't feel terrible atm, better after lunch, and wants no fuss.  Bless her.
The plan is for minimal treatment which I agree with.
She seems less bothered than the rest of us!
My father 5.5 years older than her.
I am very sorry to hear that. Can you say what type of cancer it is? Over the weekend, I put into google, 'Ladies on Letrozole with cancer'- i.e. not post-op -  and as a result have found the Macmilan forum which I have, of course, joined. It is difficult to say how one would face various treatments, but I think I would opt for not having heavy chemo.

I can understand how it is that she might seem less bothered than the rest of the family.
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« Reply #9 on: October 03, 2017, 03:30:09 PM »
Very sad news.

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« Reply #10 on: October 03, 2017, 03:54:02 PM »
Sorry to hear your news Robbie.  I hope your mother is pain free and enjoys each day as it comes.

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« Reply #11 on: October 04, 2017, 02:20:58 PM »
Thank you all so much for kind thoughts and comments.
Will let you know when there is more to tell.
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« Reply #12 on: October 04, 2017, 08:12:41 PM »
Sorry to hear your news.

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« Reply #13 on: October 04, 2017, 08:24:19 PM »
Take care, hard news but you have a chance to let your mum know how much you love her.

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« Reply #14 on: October 05, 2017, 01:28:11 AM »
Yes NS, I agree.  She is certainly loved - and I should be in bed, work tomorrow, but things keep going through my mind.  My husband got up once too!
Goodnight and thanks.
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« Reply #15 on: October 05, 2017, 08:10:05 PM »
Sorry to hear your sad news, Robinson. Wonderful that your mother has taken the diagnosis so well.... half the battle.

I pray you and your mum and all your family find strength and courage during this difficult time.

Take care and God Bless..
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« Reply #16 on: October 07, 2017, 01:27:40 PM »
I pray the LORD's, presence and power will remain with you and on all of you at this time.In Jesus Name.
It is difficult when any family member is not well and especially when our older family members are not feeling themselves.
Robinson, my prayers with you and your mum at this time.  It can feel isolating so I pray for strength and peace for each one of your family and especially your mum. xx S
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« Reply #17 on: October 07, 2017, 11:25:03 PM »
Thank you very much.
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« Reply #18 on: October 09, 2017, 04:08:31 PM »
I'm so grateful to you all.
Mum had a 'procedure' today to make her comfortable.  I'm home now but will go back to hosp tonight & take dad home.  She will be coming home tomorrow a.m, my sis is organising that.

She tells us she wasn't terribly uncomfortable before but didn't feel all that good.  Make of that what you will.  I was with her Saturday pm, she ate but not a lot & was fine but easily tired.  Called in on Sunday but my sister was in charge of Sunday (no forgetting my parents-in-law who are her age & very good friends;  they have prepared all sorts of nice & easily digestible food for her).

We'll see how mum is tomorrow; I'm going to work but will go in lunchtime.

Very gentle at the moment and may it continue that way.  Thanks again.
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« Reply #19 on: October 10, 2017, 08:10:40 AM »
Thanks fir the update. It all sounds safe and nurturing. My thoughts are with you both. xx

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« Reply #20 on: October 10, 2017, 06:57:28 PM »
Thank you very much.  Mum feels fine, she and dad are going away to Sussex tomorrow, coming back Saturday.  They had a lovely holiday down there in July, when I was away in Devon, and she said she'd like the two of them to go back for a few days.  My nephew is driving them down and husband picking them up Saturday, he is going there Friday night and doing some work with his sister on Saturday after which he'll drive himself and them back. If there's an emergency my sis-in-law says she'll return them home quickly but I feel they will be OK and it will do them good.

I appreciate all prayers and positive thoughts right now.
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« Reply #21 on: October 19, 2017, 10:28:06 AM »
Thank you very much.  Mum feels fine, she and dad are going away to Sussex tomorrow, coming back Saturday.  They had a lovely holiday down there in July, when I was away in Devon, and she said she'd like the two of them to go back for a few days.  My nephew is driving them down and husband picking them up Saturday, he is going there Friday night and doing some work with his sister on Saturday after which he'll drive himself and them back. If there's an emergency my sis-in-law says she'll return them home quickly but I feel they will be OK and it will do them good.

I appreciate all prayers and positive thoughts right now.

Hi Robinson,

It is good your mum is very much active and getting on with things. I am sure the break will do everyone the world of good for recharging the batteries both mentally and physically.  You have to take care of each other too. Prayers and thoughts with you all. x
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« Reply #22 on: October 19, 2017, 03:20:17 PM »
Thank you.

Adding a bit, Sunday 22nd.  Mum and dad at my sister's today, I've had a quiet day at home.
All is well at the moment, it's always at the back of my mind though.

Thanks so much for prayers.
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« Reply #23 on: October 23, 2017, 04:08:54 PM »
Thank you.

Adding a bit, Sunday 22nd.  Mum and dad at my sister's today, I've had a quiet day at home.
All is well at the moment, it's always at the back of my mind though.

Thanks so much for prayers.

Don't get mad with tomatoes if you drop them (hug). :) :-[
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« Reply #24 on: January 01, 2018, 08:20:29 PM »
Yeah, especially if they fall out of a very full fridge :-).

Had good (low key) Christmas and new year with mum and dad but mum is very, very weak now so it won't be too long.  Thanks all for prayers, she is not suffering.
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