I don't wear a poppy at all, and get glared at by the people collecting outside Tesco. I do donate to the village collection, but don't want to wear one. That should be my private business but apparently it's up there with going around wearing a sign saying 'I kick puppies'.
It is your private business. It annoys me that everyone appearing on TV 'has' to wear one. Considering they fall off so easily, leaving you with just a pin, I don't blame anyone for not wearing a poppy.
I bought a couple of poppy 'brooches' two or three years ago, one red from a store and one white online from an organisation, the money went to the relevant charities and, like you, I put money in tins. Last year I didn't wear either poppy, just didn't think of it. No-one said anything to me. My husband never, ever wears one but is happy to donate.
Poppy fascism gets my goat. Are children coerced into poppy wearing by schools? Don't think mine were, I'd remember something like that.
LR's grandfather probably joined the Royal Army Medical Corps.