Tradwives

[Sriram]

Hi everyone,

There seems to be a new trend in recent times among some women towards  becoming what they call...tradwives (traditional wives).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=37cXe2XzSus

https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/tradwives-ww2-feminist-second-wave-housewives-a9295371.html

Bound to happen, I suppose. Pendulum swings back.

Women wanting to give priority to family and home should be fine, I think....but wanting to submit themselves to every whim of their husbands...seems somewhat overdone.  Even many traditional wives of the past did not do that, IMO.

Any views?

Sriram 

[Steve H]

Each to their own, but why make a thing about it, or give it a name?

[Gordon]

I ran the 'every whim' bit past Mrs G: she just laughed (but not in a good way).

[Anchorman]

I thought this was a group for females whose spouses were absent, attending folk music concerts.

[Steve H]

I thought this was a group for females whose spouses were absent, attending folk music concerts.

That'd be 'Trad widows', like golf widows.

[Robbie]

I'd read about it, it is definitely a 'thing'. https://www.stylist.co.uk/long-reads/traditional-1950s-housewife-tradwife-tradlife-explained-women-reject-feminism-careers-domestic-housework/315360

Not my thing by a long chalk but I've always encountered a few 'traditional' housewives; they can call it what they like but basically they don't want to work outside the home (maybe lack confidence& skills or just feel comfortable in their own little world), and make a huge deal out of housework and housekeeping. If they employed a cleaner or housekeeper that employee would do everything they do in a quarter of the time & better but if it suits them, fine.

Regarding the being 'submissive', some may pay lip service to that but a lot of women really rule the roost at home.

I do wonder how they'd manage if their marriage broke up and they found themselves on their own with little money - they'd have to learn to do something to earn a crust & it would be quite a culture shock.

[jeremyp]

I'd read about it, it is definitely a 'thing'. https://www.stylist.co.uk/long-reads/traditional-1950s-housewife-tradwife-tradlife-explained-women-reject-feminism-careers-domestic-housework/315360

Not my thing by a long chalk but I've always encountered a few 'traditional' housewives; they can call it what they like but basically they don't want to work outside the home (maybe lack confidence& skills or just feel comfortable in their own little world), and make a huge deal out of housework and housekeeping. If they employed a cleaner or housekeeper that employee would do everything they do in a quarter of the time & better but if it suits them, fine.

Regarding the being 'submissive', some may pay lip service to that but a lot of women really rule the roost at home.

I do wonder how they'd manage if their marriage broke up and they found themselves on their own with little money - they'd have to learn to do something to earn a crust & it would be quite a culture shock.

There are about a quarter of a million marriages in the UK every year. Some of those are for same sex couples, so let's be conservative and say each year about 200,000 heterosexual women get married. That's a million women over five years. If 1 in 100 of those women actually like housekeeping, that's 10,000 such women every five years. We should not be surprised to discover such people exist.

And, by the way, it's not wrong to like housekeeping any less than it's not wrong to like programming computers (which I do) or mining coal or doing the accounts. If people want to do it, that's fine by me. The problem is not people doing housework as a career, but not being allowed to do anything else simply because they were born female.

 

[Robbie]

The problem is not people doing housework as a career, but not being allowed to do anything else simply because they were born female.


I get that jeremy but who wouldn't be allowed to do anything else in this day and age?
Housework or housekeeping as a career is different to being a housewife or househusband.
I've no quarrel with anyone being one if they are happy, not my business, but do object to the idea that they're submissive to their partner. I doubt that is usually the case.

[jeremyp]

I've no quarrel with anyone being one if they are happy, not my business, but do object to the idea that they're submissive to their partner. I doubt that is usually the case.

Some people are submissive, some are dominant. Some vary from one to the other depending on circumstances. It's the nature of people's characters.

Personally, I don't understand why anybody would want to be submissive what with the whipping, nipple clamps, hot wax and butt plugs...

... oops sorry, wrong forum.

[Robbie]